Why I Don’t Mind Being Single
October 2nd, 2007 by Kat Dy, Fashion EditorPosted in Life at Cosmo |
I’m reposting this entry from my Multiply site because I know a lot of you will be able to relate to my sentiments.
Most people exclaim in disbelief when they find out that I’ve been single for nearly five years. I can’t blame them. There was a time when I thought three years was too long a time to not be in a relationship, but having surpassed that benchmark and without even the prospect of a guy materializing, much more a relationship happening, in the near future, I have made peace with my current status.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not for lack of wanting. I went through a phase when all I could think about was getting a boyfriend, and had seriously considered hooking up with just about any guy that would pass the bare minimum standards. “Aaaah…you must have had flings throughout those years then,” people would assume. One big HA! Sure, there have been a few that I was genuinely interested in. A couple of them, I got heavily involved in, and had honestly thought would have a serious relationship with. Frankly though, Pepe, our cat, has seen more action in the past four plus years that I’ve been single, and that’s no mean feat considering that he’s neutered and has no balls, literally.
So why oh why am I ok, and even (gasp!), happy? Because of the people that I have in my life right now. Whether they’re family, officemates, colleagues, and dear friends, being surrounded by them keeps me sane, sensible and satisfied. Two weeks ago, I arrived home at 10pm, having spent four crazy/insane days in the Lion City as one half of the Philippine team that joined the Great Singapore Sale Shopping Challenge. Soon as I had unloaded my baggage, I called my best buds/homies, Chester and Gab, to report that I had landed, safe and sound. In less than an hour, the two were parked outside my house, where I proceeded to regale them with stories of my trip. Though I was bone-tired and sleep-deprived, I was wide awake throughout the two hours we hung out that night, chatting away on the trunk of Chester’s car, while eating pomelo and finishing off a carton of juice. And it wasn’t just me that needed to rest. Gab had an early morning flight to catch in a few hours time. Chester had work the following day. Still, they were there soon as I called, with no complaints and needing no cajoling. And I remember thinking to myself then, “With friends like these, who needs a boyfriend?” Corny as it may seem, it is these seemingly insignificant moments that make me realize that I am one lucky person to have such great people to love, and who love me in return.
So really, I don’t mind being single. And though I eagerly anticipate the day when I finally meet “The One,” I’m perfectly happy waiting it out with my current “boyfriends.” One year, two years, heck, maybe even five more years! With them at my side, I’m pretty sure the years will fly by. =)
I love your post! It just made me more realize that I don’t need to be romantically involved with someone to be happy. Truly, with true friends around, my life will always be a bliss! =)
I love your post! It just made me more realize that I don’t need to be romantically involved with someone to be happy. Truly, with true friends around, my life will always be a bliss! =)
Wow! It feels great to read your post.. I love it! I can relate to this. I am single for 3 yrs now, Same thing I realize that when you’re with family and true friends who’ll make you feel appreciated and loved, “Who needs a boyfriend”? : )Though we’re not hipocrite to deny that we, girls also need affection special kind of love from someone whose also special to us. But hey! right guy will just popped right there infront of you the least you expect it. When the right moment comes. But for now as long as there are friends and loved ones who give us unconditional love and attention, that’s enough to fill the space of a “BF” in our hearts. Love single life : )
I can so relate with you! :) I’ve been single for already a year and a half. Though I won’t deny that I’ve had recent bouts of depression just because of being single… I’m still happy that I’ve taken a choice not to hook up with just “any” guy. :) Because, deep inside, I know that there’s someone out there for me. :D Cheers to us!
as my mom would always say - “anak, masarap maging dalaga. pag married or committed or simply with boyfriend - maraming ng magbabago” true and sometimes, it gets so complicated pa nga. enjoy the circle of being single, strong and super, uber happy! hahaha :)
i share your thoughts.. been single for the past 4 years or so (who’s counting?hehehe)been dreaming to be in a relationship… but if not with PIOLO P. in the near future, i’m willing to spend another 4 years or so… single and loving it…
your post rocks!
i absolutely love it =)
Hey Kat!
Hahahahaha…
I like the post..about being single.
Dont worry..am actually NBSB…
sheeshhh..and i’m getting older..sucks!
anywayz, u know any guys friends?
Kidding!
god bless!
thanks,,,i can relate
pinalalakas mo ang loob ko to stay single,,unless i meet him “the one”.
can u help my sister to become a model of you magazinge?
she’s also pretty check out my site http://rhaiyne2007.multiply.com/ or her friendster sexykath_16@yahoo.com.ph
Yes, I agree! Being single is like being free, no hassles, no worries, it’s like you can do anything you want and go anywhere you like. Inspiring! Thanks to you and more power!
OMG! i bet ur ryt..i jz love ds post..everythin bout wat uve said is so true…(sigh)im jz 20 nway.y rush
yeah, who needs a bf if you’re fabulously single naman. hehe
God,Kat,im happy 4u.Iv just been recently “rendered” single by a two-(or is it three-??)timing boyfriend of 5years.And I’m still in the process of getting over a painful heartbreak.It’s no mean feat to stay single,just as terrible it is to stay in a “love-less” relationship.I believe that staying single is not only a choice but also a privilege;it’s not a curse but rather a wonderful blessing.You learn to see yourself in a more selfless perspective and you get to shower your affection on not just one special person but to lovely bunches of special people who will be there for you regardless of the circumstances and of your status in life.Of course I also wish that I would one day meet someone who will make me willingly kiss my single life goodbye,but since I still have to patiently wait in the wings for him to cross my path,there are other more important dreams to fulfill,more love to give and more people to meet with whom I can share God’s love.
nakaka-relate ako sa post mo…some people really don’t understand the essence
of being single.often times,they make fun on you just beacuse you’re signlt.ang babaw ng ganung tao…make youself happy first before you can make others happy di ba?!
pls add me in your multiply…hehehe…tnx**wink**
sure, der r tyms u wonder whether being single is ur choice nga ba or just because ur meant (lagot!) to be single, di ba? but true enough, being single is not a disability. this is part of life, everyone goes through this period (singlehood) and whether ur still enjoying the period or just afraid to move on to next level, it’s what we are. no one and i repeat no one should ever force us to ever let go of something we enjoy or to go to a place that we’re afraid of and not ready to face (yet).. sabi nga sa “meet joe black”, “IT WILL COME TO US”. kung hindi, duh… there’s always the bed, we can always sleep. ;)
I definitely agree wid your post.
APIR!!!! ;-P
I love this post. I just love it. And hey, you’re part of Cosmo… there’s little to want!!
yes, i agree that being single is a choice, so wat if u stay single!… hahaha, but besides ur affected w/ the society or environment being single, but all i can say & understand in life is “the real measure of success, is getting what u make a happy as and individual”
hi! i am happily married, but i can still say that your post makes a lot of sense!:)
here’s to all the single (and happy) gals out there.